What
inspired you to write this book?
After more
than 30 years working with singles as both a marriage and family therapist and
dating coach, I kept seeing the same painful patterns repeat themselves. Many
good people were struggling in dating not because they lacked value, but
because they lacked understanding of the techniques and behaviors that create
healthy connection early on.
I wanted to
create something practical, clear, and empowering that helps people stop
feeling confused and start recognizing what actually builds mutual investment
and real connection.
What does
“good dating technique” actually look like in practice?
Good dating
technique is about clarity, emotional awareness, pacing, communication, and
observing behavior patterns instead of getting swept away by chemistry alone.
It means
understanding how to build connection intentionally while also
recognizing red flags, emotional imbalance, unhealthy attachment, or one-sided
investment early enough to avoid unnecessary heartbreak.
What
patterns do you see repeatedly among people who are single?
One of the
biggest patterns is confusion during the early stages of dating. People often
mistake attraction for compatibility or move too quickly emotionally before
trust and consistency are established.
I also see
many people over-giving, over-analyzing, or unintentionally abandoning their
own standards because they fear losing connection.
What advice
would you give someone who feels burned out by dating?
Slow down
and reconnect with clarity instead of pressure.
Burnout
often happens when people continue repeating dating experiences without
understanding what is actually happening emotionally and behaviorally
underneath the surface.
Dating
becomes healthier when people stop chasing validation and start observing
consistency, effort, communication, and emotional safety.
What kind of
transformation do you hope readers experience after finishing the book?
I hope
readers walk away feeling calmer, clearer, and more confident.
I want them
to understand that healthy dating is not about playing games or becoming
someone else. It’s about recognizing patterns, making wiser decisions, and
building relationships from a place of clarity rather than fear or confusion.
Where can
readers find out more about you and your books?
Readers can
learn more through:
- Amazon Author Page
- Goodreads
- Lasting Love Academy
- Instagram and Facebook under
Lasting Love Academy
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